It's February and you know what that means? Yep, it's love month! I love love. I really do! I'm not talking about romantic love, although I do love that kind of love too. I'm talking about the kind of love that connects people...really connects people. I'm talking about the kind of love that is understanding and doesn't judge - the kind that comes from empathy and compassion. I'm talking about the kind of love that sees past flaws and instead chooses to see and focus on the best in people. I'm talking about the kind of love that has the power to lead a person to random acts of kindness for no other reason than their heart guided them to do so. The kind of love that is at its deepest and most sincere level of caring and sharing. The love I'm talking about knows no stranger and sincerely wants the best for everyone.
When I first started writing this week's blog it felt icky and heavy. Being Valentine's week I thought I was supposed to write on romantic love. I didn't feel authentic writing on romance because it isn't really something I could say I have been lucky in. In fact, I'll be completely honest and tell you that I've only been "in love" once. Over the years I've had some big likes and even came close to love again not long ago, but true love I've only had once. Here's the thing, you don't have to have great romances in life to be an expert on love. You see, love isn't a possession even though it is one of life's greatest gifts. Love is an action. It is something that you choose to do for family, friends, partners, or even a perfect stranger. Love is an energetic flow of intentional connection.
Some ways to practice intentional connection and share your love with those around you are...
• Follow your heart. If you see someone in need of being shown some love, try a random act of kindness or share some words of encouragement.
• Buy a cup of coffee for the person in front of you.
• Call an old friend or relative and share your appreciation for the ways they add value to your life.
• Give someone a compliment.
• Send a silent prayer or wish for someone in need.
• Give a hug.
• Be thoughtful about the type of love language someone might need to be shown, and show it. Do they need affirmation? Do they need a hug? Do they need kindness?
• Listen without distraction.
• Remember that people who show up in unlovable ways probably need to be shown love the most. If you encounter someone acting out, show them some love they might not have been shown. Give them some hope and cheer.
• Say I love you and then do something to follow up on your love. Your actions will speak louder than your words.
Have you noticed that I sign everything "With my deepest diva love"? I do this as one of the many ways I choose to share my love and connect with you. They are not just words at the end of a blog or letter. They truly mean something to me and my wish is that they mean something to you. I want you to know that you are genuinely loved and cared for, that I have the very best intentions for you, and that I want to connect with you.
Truly, with all of my deepest diva love,